Is it too late or can we get it back?

the only way to build trust without a counselor is by continually telling the truth and being faithful until the other person sees you have changed. i have never cheated on my boyfriend but i lied to him alot in the beginning of our relationship. he doesn't trust me too much now, but i'm just trying to slowly build trust. the only problem with this is that in the meantime you still don't trust each other, so how do you know that the other person is continually telling the truth if you always suspect them of lying? and then the liar feels the need to lie to you about certain things because you can't handle the truth. so it's a never ending cycle. the best thing is to try to get him to go to a counselor so that at least you can get to the bottom of why all the lying and cheating. that can help you at least trust that things won't happen again by fixing the initial problem of why it happened.